Udayavani Roopa iyers article in modern adhyatma

Iwas reading the article by roopa iyer on how we are repeatedly being fooled by people around us and refuse to believe it.we repeatedly feel we are aware,we cant be fooled but continue to be fooled.its usually our nearest and dearest who do it.I have even earlier posted on fb about how jesus was fooled ,only by his disciples ,none other than them .she ends with a note on how to face it ,in the sense it's a part of our "karmic" account.yes may be we cheated someone ,so somebody cheats us.
I do not even know who is this roopa iyer,but felt this article I reluctantly read as I was sipping tea early morning ,was  useful and made me go into introspective mood.
Look at fights that take place between two parties.It will usually be between brothers/sisters,best friends,neighbours,classmates or colleagues.Very rarely with strangers.look at the cause ,its also over "importance" "money","position" "power" or "lover".I have done it,I am sure most of you have done it.But why does it occur?Even our epics warn us about it ,Ramayana was woven around jealousy of "kaikei"lust of "ravana" power mongering of "vali sugriva".Mahabharatha again was "competition"between cousins.
Go from epics to real life "Gavaskar kapil "
"Bhupathi  paes" "modi advani"  everywhere  fight for importance ,leadership over partnership ,self over team is seen.
As I understand ,this is probably  "visible" among humans ,may exist in animals too.
Whats the solution for this? Solution I believe is "no expectations" " no comparisons".yes ,many of us have read a fb post which displayed this.Is this not true? The moment you don't get the expected you feel bad.The moment you expect some body who "loved"you,didn't respond with love,you feel bad .The moment you didnt get the thing expected from your friends,you are dissapointed.
"Comparison "is something which we face from birth.As a child is born,we are compared with regards to "looks" he is as black as his mother or he is having a dimple like his dad and as we go to school ,we are compared with our cousins,neighbours children or parent's colleagues children.By this time,we conclude that real happiness comes by "comparing"ourself with others and we decide all our necessities based on what others have procured or earned.As I write this,I was amused as my mind was comparing "myself" with a friend of mine.yes comparison is never ending. So real solution is to stop "comparing" with others.Each of us is unique,each of us have our way of doing things.let us understand that "we compete and perish,while we cooperate and flourish".